1. Was it planned?
That is none of your business, to be honest. In fact, some older women get pregnant without planning, and some young women choose to have babies early. Also, my baby is not an ‘it’.
2. You’re too young.
I am aware of how old I am, but I am also aware of my ability to take care of a child. My age doesn’t decide whether I can or can not raise a successful child. Adele’s mother had her when she was 18 and look at her!
3. Your life must be REALLY hard.
I mean, raising a child isn’t the easiest thing to do, but it’s really not as bad as it seems. In fact, I don’t think it’s bad at all. I don’t mind questions about work/study/life balance, because those are important things, but do not assume my life sucks because I have a child. If anything, my life is better now because I will never feel lonely again.
4. If you could go back, would you change anything?
Imagine how crappy you would feel if your mum told you that she would never have had you had she been able to go back in time? It’s kind of like she’s saying you screwed up some part of her life.
5. You’re young, so you’re a cool mum.
Thanks? While this may seem to you like a compliment, this feels suuuper demeaning.
6. At least you got it out of the way early.
“Out of the way”? When you have a baby, nothing is “out of the way”. That baby is yours for the rest of your life! No take backsies.
7. How did your parents react when you told them?
They were actually really excited. Just like most people who learn they’re going to be grandparents. My mum had me young so why shouldn’t she be happy for me?
8. Is it against your religion to use birth control?
You’re a moron if you seriously think this is okay to say.
9. Do you miss going out to bars and stuff?
Nope. Because I still go out to bars and stuff, just not as much as I used to. I don’t stay home and watch reality TV and movies all day. I do in fact still have a life.
10. Are you anti-abortion?
Is this even a real question?
11. Were you afraid of getting stretch marks and gaining a lot of weight when you got pregnant?
Obviously, isn’t everyone? But I was also busy worrying about giving birth.
12. You don’t look like a mom.
If you’re saying this because I look good, then thanks. But older moms look good, too. Not all moms look tired and miserable all the time. Actually, ALL mums look great!
13. I can’t picture you doing “mummy” stuff.
Because young women don’t possess the qualities that are needed to mother a child? Try again sweetie.
14. Is the dad in the picture at all?
Yes, he is, and he’s honestly the most amazing dad on earth. Not all young dads are deadbeats. And not all children born from young parents grow up in a broken family.
15. So you and your boyfriend will get married soon, right?
I’m only 19, so marriage is not in the picture right now. We’re more worried about being good parents and giving our child the best quality life we can. This isn’t the year 1950.
16. I thought most women were having babies later.
Maybe they are! I guess I’m just not “most women.”
17. For a young mum, you do such a great job.
How about just tell me I do a great job without mentioning how young I am? I know a lot of young mums who are amazing, just the same as I know plenty of “older” mums who are horrible. Age means NOTHING.
18. But what about your job?
What about it? I am studying at home to do my dream job. In fact, my baby motivates me to be better at everything I do every single day. Without him in the picture I doubt I’d have gotten off my ass and started my studying.
19. Do not start wearing “mom jeans”.
Um, excuse you? Paired with the right accessories and top, I think that “mom jeans” are bloody awesome.
20. Do you regret having kids so young?
I hate the word “regret.” Would I advise someone to have kids before 25? Probably not, because of course it’s easier to get a home etc when you’re a little bit older and that way, you can bring a baby straight into your life that you’ve sorted. But I will say I am glad I had my son. He changed my life for the better.
21. Just another dole bludger, cheating the system for money.
Shut the f**k up.